By: Anne Parker, Miraval's Wellness Counselor
Love is being present.
That is how Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Buddhist monk and writer on mindfulness, defines love. A simple yet powerful sentiment.
The way to connect to those you love is by being present – with the other person as well as yourself. Being present means fully engaging in what is being shared between you in that moment – truly paying attention to the thoughts, feelings, and actions you are sharing now. This may sound obvious and straightforward, and it is. However, think about how you and your beloved interact during the course of a typical day. How much are you truly present with each other? How often is your communication “on the fly” or happening while “multitasking”? How often, while listening to the other speak, are you interpreting what they are saying into what you think they really mean? And then, when you respond, you are responding to what you’ve decided they meant instead of what they said?